Anger is never good can invariably harm you a lot more than it can harm others. You could destroy a friendship or a relationship that you built through the years in just a moment of anger. There are many methods for anger management and self control is the only way in which it’s possible to control his or her anger. Personally, i count to 100 slowly and i’m usually calmed down by time I reach 50. There are various other ways of self control. I’ve also found that reading motivational books can make you curtail anger to a large degree. Since we all don’t have the time for you to read, I’ve compiled some quotes on anger by famous writer and philosophers that might help you to control you anger.
There’s a stating that repentance and anger towards someone is like drinking poison and wishing that the person would die. Self control is when we are able to have a check up on our desires however it rarely happens that you just go mad about getting something, and self control is simpler when it is about keeping a cheque on some desire, since you can certainly control your desire. But anger is spontaneous and if you were conscious of it, you wouldn’t be angry to begin with. And because it is so spontaneous, it might be even more hard to control Anger.
It requires lots of practice to control anger and you have to stop it as being soon as it comes because it is often past too far if you let yourself loose even for a few seconds. As soon as you get angry, always attempt to remember what could go wrong should you fly off the handle and think whether you’ll repent something that you are going to do momentarily. Should you let anger overcome you, your inner demon will say that you do not worry about the effects, and when you begin convinced that way, you have to consider the adverse consequences that the family members may need to face.
Here are some tips to manage Anger:
1) Understand your common reasons for anger :
After i is at residing in the dorm, I used to get very angry whenever someone wakes me up just to ask me something trivial. Somehow my anger takes over because someone broke my sleep just to ask something trivial and I would just scream at whoever is waking me up. Of course I would apologize later for losing my handle, but at that time I would make the damage.
However i knew the reason for anger. I get angry very often in this particular situation and that i said to myself then which i will think rationally and not scream when someone wakes me up. Because you, it wasn’t the question that irked me, however the proven fact that some one woke me up lit the fire, and also the trivial question just adds fuel to my anger. I just needed to not light the fireplace to manage my anger. And after months of practice after i asked a buddy to wake me up everyday, after which practicing not to be irritated when I am woken could I control my morning or siesta anger.
2) Think of God :
This might not work with atheists, but those who have faith in god must attempt to remember his favorite god whenever he is in danger and pray to help him conquer his anger. Whenever I start losing my temper, I would start praying to god like crazy to help me overcome the anger, and yes it sure helps.
3) Think of the consequences :
This is the most difficult move to make when you are angry, because when we are angry, we quite often don’t care about any consequences, and that we don’t worry about anything. In times like this, think carefully about all the consequences. Consider your loves ones what it really might cause to them, even if you don’t care.
4) Count to 100
This is easily the most effective, time tested formula for controlling anger. Ignore everything above, and ignore everything around you and just start counting from 1 till you are calmed down. It works better still should you count using you fingers. Just count away your anger. This is the most effective technique. Check it out.
It also helps to remember these quotes which i have compiled. Print them out and post them in a number of visible places and it will certainly relax you.